Reasons why your Virginity will stay intact when using a menstrual cup
This is one of the most searched questions about using menstrual cups. Let’s start with the word “VIRGIN” and it’s historical meaning. The state of being a virgin hundreds of years ago meant that a woman was sexually inexperienced but the word evolved into its modern explanation: A person, male or female who has not yet engaged in sexual intercourse.
Therein lies the rub by today’s social and technically speaking standards. A woman doesn’t lose her virgin status by putting tampons and fingers inside of her vagina nor does a man by using a hand to masturbate or a mouth for a blowjob.
Okay, let's back it up and get down to basics:
The word “Virgin” is an ancient word used to put a woman’s worth up for grabs like a commodity. Some how a woman’s status as a Virgin made her more desirable, righteous, and innocent. A chaste woman was somehow more valuable than a woman who enjoys sex.
Now let's make our way into modern times:
A Virgin by today’s standards, when omitting the cultural and religious aspects is more a state of mind and having to do with consent. A person, male or female touching each other’s genitalia with or without penetration with the purpose to please one another, or to achieve orgasm is considered sex.
A person who has sex against his or her will, is and should be allowed to still call themselves a Virgin since it was taken by force and not given willingly. Some doctors would disagree, because they view penetration of a penis into a woman’s vagina, no matter the circumstance, technically sexual intercourse, thereby making her no longer a virgin (or him).
LGBTQ2 and Virginity
AH HA! What about LGBTQ2 (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Still Questioning & 2 Spirited)? Can homosexual people lose their virginity since there is no true standard medical explanation?
Researcher and author Laura M. Carpenter, found that gay men, lesbians and those who chose their sexual predilection, view sexual acts relating to virginity loss as “acts that correspond to your sexual orientation,” which proposes the following: “So if you’re a gay male, you’re supposed to have anal sex because that’s what gay men do. And if you’re a gay woman, then you’re supposed to have oral sex, because that’s what gay women do. And so those become, like markers, for when virginity is lost.”
What exactly are you losing anyway? Giving your virginity away seems more like a gift that keeps on giving if ya ask me.
So... WILL USING MENSTRUAL CUPS DESTROY YOUR 'VIRGIN' STATUS?
NO! A Menstrual cup goes inside the vagina and placed below the cervix to catch your period blood. There is nothing sexual about them.
Can a menstrual cup stretch, rip or damage a woman’s hymen? YES. But, that doesn’t mean you’re still not a Virgin.
Women’s hymens can be torn (not broken), by being an athlete, riding horses, bicycling, and tampons. Some are born without a hymen at all and having sex without the hymen ripping but instead stretching isn’t abnormal either.
Hymens are a mere piece of tissue and not all are the same either. The act of tearing your hymen via intercourse can be a ‘side effect’ of having sex. There should never be shame attached to your choices as a woman having to do with how you wish to share yourself with others as long as you’re not hurting anybody.
Let me be clear, “Virginity” holds just as much emotional weight as physical, and in my opinion, more.
Losing one’s virginity in today’s society (sans religious beliefs and oppressive female cultures) has become more a state of mind before, during, and after the act itself, and no one but you, is allowed to define it.
What are your thoughts on virginity? Do you believe it more emotional or physical? Tell us in the comments below.
About the Author: Suzan Brittan
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